PNSD English

Post Narcissist Stress Disorder

”Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it´s not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive” Danielle Bernock

Living with narcissistic (and psychopathic) people will make us freeze. We may end up scared of everything. We try to be invisible to avoid peoples anger and we are afraid of making mistakes. To be manipulated and lied to is something we know will happen sooner or later, and a constant awareness of this steals our energy. Flashbacks (trauma) is something we suffer from in periods. We disappear. If we don´t warm ourselves up, we may be gone forever.

I know that I´ve been suffering from PNSD, Post Narcissistic Stress Disorder. Now, many people may ask themselves: What is that? Does she mean PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?

My answer to that question is: No, I don’t mean PTSD, I mean PNSD!

A few years ago my PNSD got worse. Nor I knew about the diagnosis at the time.  As PNSD leads to very much the same symptoms as PTSD – to be exposed to narcissistic people IS traumatic, my curator said that I probably suffered from PTSD and she needed to write a referral for me to see a psychologist, educated to treat this sort of diagnosis. She wanted us to write this referral together. I told her that we probably need to write that I grew up in a narcissistic home. Though, she wasn’t comfortable using such a word, so she didn’t. Instead the referral came in with the suspected diagnosis of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

A few weeks later my curator received a document in which the psychologist asked for more details. He wanted to know more about the traumatic event I had encountered. She immediately realized that there was nothing to write. There was no single traumatic event to be found in my life. She knew though, that this was about my whole life. When she laid eyes on the list of symptoms which characterize Post Narcissist Stress Disorder, there was no longer an issue weather to write in a second referral about my upbringing in a narcissistic home.

So, now everything was fine, and I should be able to receive help. So we thought.

But the Psychiatry clinic´s answer was as follows: ”There is no such thing as Post Narcissist Stress Disorder on our list of diagnosis and treatments.” We shouldn´t even use such concepts. This was a situation they didn’t know about or didn´t want to hear about! At the Psychiatry Clinic!

Once more it was confirmed to me what I made very clear in my book Narcissism and Psychopathy. You don´t talk about these diagnoses and problems in a constructive manner with purpose to make it better. You don´t talk about these problems at all. It is a lot better to sweep it under the rug! As if the world will become a better place then?!

Find out more regarding PNSD below:

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When you have read this, be very firm about the fact to not take on any blame what so ever! It is easy to do that, as a consequence from being hypersensitive to certain things. Of course you should look for help and treatment and also strive to be objective regarding the issue if others really do have the purpose to hurt you, or if they don´t. This is because you shouldn´t be trapped in a life where you need to be worried all the time. To get rid of that feeling is to feel better and function better again. But we must never forget that those traits that we have become hypersensitive to, actually NEVER are okay! When these traits really show up, it is you who have the rights. To lie, manipulate or act out with emotional coldness is never okay! No matter how someone else tries to turn the tables around. They are the ones to change, not you!